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Three Questions to Elevate and Deepen every Conversation. 

30/1/2017

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We don't live in isolation. We are constantly in a situation where we need to interact with someone else. We depend on others for cooperation, for information, for support or just for connection. 

How we communicate and how articulate we are can mean the difference between making progress and encountering resistance.

Conversations can either be a dreaded event or a fun time to look forward to. The art of Communication and Conversations is big business. Companies and individuals spend millions on training and coaching to up-skill their conversational skills. 

But what if there are simple things we can do to uplift the quality of interactions? 

How about three questions? 

Doesn't that sound like something that's doable?

Because it is! 

Good conversations not only uplift interactions but have other benefits too:

  • It helps us relate better to other people
  • It facilitates deeper conversations instead of superficial exchanges
  • It helps us cultivate empathy for the others
  • It gives us a chance to understand their perspective 
  • It gives perspective to our problems as compared to someone else's
  • It helps us make new friends
  • It helps us discover new approaches, techniques, and way of doing things
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So, the next time you are in a discussion or want to have a meaningful conversation with someone use these three questions to build a better quality of interaction:
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  1. 'What do you think about that..?' 
  2. 'What has been your experience...?'
  3. 'How would you approach this...?'

Simple. Effective. Inclusive. 

The idea is to invite the others to spend as much time as possible talking about what they are truly thinking about. This way, not only will you gain good information but also understand the underlying feelings and concerns. 

Imagine how effective you can be under those circumstances... I see ALL your relationships flourish!

Win-Win!

Tell me about how this works out for you and as always, 


Written With Love

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7 ways to Stay Upbeat While Waiting on Manifestations

23/1/2017

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Deliberate creators know that there can be a gap between what you ask for and when it shows up in your experience. The big tickets items or something that is closest to our hearts are generally the ones where we see this the most.

Having a gap or a lag time between asking and receiving is a good thing. Can you imagine if every single thing we wished for came true!

Sometimes we think we want something but it's a good thing we have time to refine and consider our choice of manifestations. 

But while we wait, it sometimes can be quiet annoying. The most common thought, 'Why hasn't it shown up yet?!' can start to play up.

We know that giving into that annoyance or irritability will further increase that time lag. So as masters of our own destinies, we must continue to stay positive and live a joyful life as the universe does what it does best.
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Here are 7 things you can practice when you find yourself moving away from happiness and towards annoyance
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  1. Increase your circle of influence – focus and complete things that you have control over.
  2. Appreciative inquiry – make a list of things that you have now and are grateful for…
  3. Distracting hobbies – pursue hobbies to distract you, dance, paint, run, trek, collect coins…
  4. Get together – meet up with people that you love, plan an activity or have them over for a meal…
  5. Clear your physical space – yup! Clean house, work desk, car…
  6. Day dream – visualize and day dream about an alternative reality…
  7. Be a champion slacker – do nothing if that helps you...

This is by no means an exhaustive list.

​Bottom line, do what makes you feels better and keeps you joyful. Consciously bring yourself to the present moment and live the now!
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What rejecting love looks like...

10/1/2017

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We tend to be pretty good are visualizing and creating intentions for what we want. And then we wait. We wait for it to show up as if to say a big ball is going to hit your head and announce, 'Hey! What you asked for is here!' ​

That's NOT how that works. 

We unknowingly might be hindering our own progress and creating blocks for the good stuff to flow in. 

So I sat down to introspect how some of my actions might be blocking love, abundance, and acceptance to flow in. Here's a list based on my experience of that misalignment. ​

  1. When I look into the mirror and don't like parts of what I see
  2. When I check my phone in the middle of a conversation
  3. When my response to a compliment is pointing to something that didn’t work
  4. When I say I am fine when I am not
  5. When I let people change plans on me and stay quiet about the inconvenience it causes me
  6. When I reach for my phone the first thing in the morning without connecting with myself, my loved ones
  7. When I give things away only so that people will like me
  8. When I hide how hurt I am just to appear strong and not affected by it all
  9. When I don't forgive and let go, to keep the illusion of taking a higher ground
  10. When I scold myself for choosing two carb dishes
  11. When I don’t look into the eyes of the person I am speaking with
  12. When I don't take a call from family or friends because I am 'not in the mood'
  13. When I don't celebrate the little wins
  14. When I carefully choose the number of times I show up for someone because that's what marketing guru's say
  15. When I wait an appropriate amount of time to reply just so that I don't come off as eager
  16. When I choose the extent of my vulnerability so that I seem in control and wise
  17. When I present myself only when things are perfect
  18. When I don't pick up the phone and call because the situation is a bit awkward and will require work
  19. When I compare myself. Period.
  20. When I don't spend every day with purpose but do what is expected
  21. When I do something  only to be validated by others
  22. When I live a half-life and am not OK with who I am
  23. When what others think of me is more important than me feeling good
  24. When I show no patience for myself, my learning curve and struggles
  25. When I take for granted someone's support for me 
  26. When I walk into a situation with judgment, expecting the worst
  27. When I don't say I love you or I miss you because I fear it won't be reciprocated
  28. When I don't ask for what I need, for help and for support
  29. And all those times I called myself stupid, fat, ugly, a nobody, useless, not good enough, not clever enough, and the other names that were so readily available at the tip of my tongue. 
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If you want a particular thing in your life, you have to start being and living it. Right now. 

Actions lead to feelings, that lead to quality of thoughts, that further lead to instructions to the universe to send more of it. 

So if you work on the quality of your thoughts but are on repeat actions that lead to different instructions, you are going to go in circles and wonder why things aren't changing!

Are your actions aligned to your intentions? 

Here's to your success and a fullfing introspection to that question. If you'd like, I'd love hear what you discover or how you changed your actions and allowed the good things to flow in! 

As always, Written with Love


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