A time to be negative...??
For the last week, I have been going back and forth on the topic of the next blog. To be honest, the past week has not exactly been a time when I was 'living in the vortex'. Not many happy and inspired moments.
So what was the reason?
I cant think of anything in particular. I still had my clients, did some social interaction, read articles, spent time with family... no particular event that would trigger this sinking feeling I was dealing with.
As a yoga trainer and a Life Coach, I am seen as someone who carries and maintains a certain level of positive vibe during the sessions. So when I have my moments like this, what do I do?
I am a part of many online forums and groups, I have a circle of friends but what I realized was that all of these people (who are LOA savvy) only talked about good things and display constant high energy. I really didn't feel like being the one who stood out like a sore thumb, talking about how 'bad' I feel and how stressed I am, etc etc.
'Its just a bad day, just deal with it', I said to myself.
I know what you might think but at a time when I was in doubt and feeling down, I had no inclination to interact with this group. It was too much positivity for me!
In retrospect, I realize that it was my limiting belief about bringing the group vibe down and not the group's attitude.
That got me thinking, we all have are circles and support groups, but does all the constant display of happiness become the very reason you stay away? Do a lot more people feel obligated to 'maintain' a certain vibe that is line with the majority of the group? Do more of us not dare discuss topics which are 'too simple'?
What about with our close friends? I know I have in the past not being completely honest to my closet pals (because I felt I didn't want to burden them). And I have had certain friends not talk about their feelings during the period of struggle.
I had a group call last Friday and it was a life saver! It started off as the ideal call, everyone happy, good news all around, everything was too prefect. Until one of the participants shared how she had been worrying about a few changes she is dealing with.
You wouldnt believe the chain reaction - four more 'came forward' and talked about similar struggles. WHAT?! Just 2 minutes ago this group was perfect and now this??!
The issues were 'simple' - fluctuations in income, being worried about next steps, lack of inspiration, the future...etc. The call was fabulous - not because people were struggling, because it felt like a honest conversation.
A lot of times, we go through everyday struggles feeling as if we are the only ones feeling down. We might feel that we should not bring others down with us or we don't want to be the negative person in the group.
I realize that support groups, close friends, coaches are there to give you a outside perspective. Its not called being negative if you ask for input to deal with a struggle. And what good is a defunct system?!
And the sooner you deal with your boo-hoo feelings, the sooner you will get your stride back. So that's what I am going to do, be honest and truthful about my feelings with the people who care about me.
Do you have the same experience? If so, what are you going to change your approach.
Do you know the REAL you?
The statement, " I think, therefore I am", has varying layers of understanding.
Self Awareness is the capacity for introspection. Its an understanding of one's knowledge, attitudes and opinions.
Generally individuals can be inaccurate about their abilities, knowledge and opinions. What I find is that, this tends to happen when we don't spend time with ourselves to really question and understand who we really are.
Yes, we have been living with ourselves for 'x' number of years but how many of us have lived any amount of time in deep reflection? My guess is, not many.
My core coaching abilities lie in working with individuals to help them unlock their potential. Having said that Self Esteem, Self worth, Self confidence, Self Acceptance, Self Forgiveness are the areas I really address.
Spending time with yourself is essential for a healthy living. That time will allow for a real understanding of your TRUE SELF. Commit yourself to this activity. Maintain a diary regarding your discoveries.
If you aren't able to direct yourself, its worth investing a few sessions with a Life Coach. The work that you do around these areas might be the push you need to prosper in all areas of your life.
Simple question but huge implications. Who is the REAL you?
What's important to me?
What are my passions?
What do I love?
What are my fears?
Stop a minute and work on your self, you will be in a better position to know what you REALLY need.
My ideal client, my muse.
Relationship expert, Lisa M Hayes on her website had written about her ideal client, her muse. We at the GoodVibe University have taken that as an activity we all could complete. So here is mine.
Let me introduce you to Jo.
Jo is essentially a happy, confident and joyful person. An 'old soul', connected to nature, a seeker - not religious but spiritual. Jo has self belief in the skills and abilities hidden beneath the exterior and has a yearning to unlock that potential and further life experiences.
Jo sees me an extension of self and we love and trust each other. Jo's other qualities:-
Jo is a warrior - strong & gentle, fierce & kind, defiant & compliant, free & grounded, driven & confused, a teacher & a student, a dark knight & a light source. Floats between chaos and serenity.
Like I said, Jo is an old soul. :)
I remember each 'old soul' I have met so far, yes even you... and I have been blessed to meet so many.
I promise you that each of us have the above qualities in us, its a matter of time before we realize. Jo always walks away from the sessions feeling these qualities ready to create like always.
Speak to you soon Jo, till next time!