Deliberate creators know time is of no consequence. Its relative and time serves one purpose, to help us understand and track our progress. And we can get our head around the concept of linear.
The universe is constantly expanding and so are our ideas and desires. With every new interaction, we generate multiple thoughts and further our list of things we'd like to experience.
Haven't you had one of those days when you were overwhelmed with things you'd like to have done? Or maybe habits you'd love to incorporate? Or places you'd love to visit. Or skills you want to learn?
Ideas, thoughts, desires are limitless. But is Time limitless too? It takes a while to get our head around the fact that for each of us time IS limitless. There are multiple papers written about current reality (time) as just one of the possibilities in an infinite spectrum of possibilities.
For now, let's not even go there, that's another conversation! Let's talk about everyday conversations.
Most people we talk to keep reminding us how time has or is running out; 'There's a time for everything and now is not the time.' Or 'you should have thought of that before'. Which to me sounds like people reminding us, you've missed the boat and there is nothing we can do about it.
I think otherwise. I am of the opinion, we can start over anytime and it’s never too late to change course. You can choose to put your ideas to action no matter what the situation.
The issue to me doesn't seem to be with too little time but more so with people trying to do a whole lot of different things altogether.
Think about it, raise your hand if you have started 10, 15, and 20 different projects or changes all at one go!
I am not a big fan of multi-tasking. It takes away complete attention from the task at hand and to me, it’s you offering less than 100% of your capabilities to one thing. You would be better served if you picked a few and manifested it to completion.
Working with your mentor / coach / partner with an increased focus on a couple of things will not only bring you great results but as you repeat the cycle, it will seem like you have all the time in the world as you look at all the accomplished goals.
No more running helter skelter, trying to do 50% with a hundred things.
The key is to do less but do it with a 100% focus, commitment, joy and inspiration!
It’s a better use of your potential and the easy way to enjoy your life's journey.
Allowing your Evolution.
Evolution. Expansion. Change. The process happens to everyone whether you intend it or not. How can you avoid it really, when your daily experience adds ‘more to you’?
In my mind, it’s the most beautiful thing and I define beauty as the divine pull towards a fleeting state.
I love being in it, I love being a catalyst for it and I am the most joyous when my actions are all about being different than I was before.
When we start something new or different, most of us feel anxious.
We might find ourselves getting stuck on, how much of a leap should we take? Or how much planning we should do? Should we start small or should we dream up the biggest and highest possible goal we can think of now.
Whether you want to evolve on a personal level or professional, we all have stood at this crossroad. You know you’d love to do certain things but pull yourself back as you evaluate how much you are capable of.
'Last week, on our road trip, I had to drive on the freeway with a speed limit of 65mph. So far I have been driving in a state which has 55mph as limit, in most areas. And even with that, I drive mostly in the city, which would mean a limit of 30mph.I have been driving since I was 18 but this time around, driving in a new country was throwing me off.
My husband said to me, “Remember, the fear is a state of mind and not reflective of your skill.”
And really, it was irrational, I have driven on highways in other countries. I trusted my instincts and my skills. So, I drove and once I did, it came to me. The bigger aha! moment was when we drove back to our state, 55mph didn’t feel like a big deal anymore and for the first time here, I relaxed and enjoyed my drive.
This happened with my writing as well. Way back, I started with 100 words with difficulty. Now I can write 500 words with ease. So what’s next? I am writing a 15-20 page self-help document. It’s the biggest thing I have done and it’s exciting!'
It got me thinking, why won’t we try this with our goals? With practicing new skills? Every time we allow and go beyond, we become more skilled and at ease with what we know.
I guess that’s the thing with allowing yourself to move out of your comfort zone, you explore new possibilities, test your limits, learn new skills and gather life’s experiences.
When was the last time you moved out of your comfort zone to follow your dreams? Do you know what you have to do but find yourself holding back?
Ask yourself, why are you doing that? What’s your biggest fear?
Most fears are irrational. What you might need is an outside in perspective of the situation.
Evolution. Expansion. Change. Beautiful words enabling a beautiful life.
‘I kept digging a hole in the ground. I have been at it for hours, months and years. All I wanted was a place to bury myself and hide. I couldn't stand the world for what it was and the situation I was in. Every day was a reminder and it was painful. As I continued to dig, I saw a hand, reaching out, as if trying to escape the very hole I was digging.
OMG! I dug deeper and deeper. In a haste I hadn't felt in a while and I pulled them out.
Grasping for breathe, they clung to me. Desperate, relieved, saved? They looked at me like I knew what I was doing, like I had planned this, like I had known where to find them. And they were grateful.
Little did they know how it all started and how I got there.'
A lot of us feel our situation is a stand-alone. It's our burden and we carry it. And what we do, has little or no meaning to others. So we take our burden and do as little as we can. Because, really, what’s the point? Right?
All the while digging that hole to crawl into. Slowly, we find our light go dimmer, our joy disappear and we seem to be OK with it.
What you might not realize at the time, is that you 'digging that hole' will eventually help someone. Breathe life into a situation stranger than yours. Be the example to never give up. Provide them with the experience and wisdom to do better.
Your actions matter. Your thoughts matter. You matter.
So keep showing up and doing what you do best - with love, commitment, kindness and generosity. And without even knowing it, you've helped someone.
'Sometimes things are so clear they don need evidential proof'
Oh my word, how beautiful is that statement? I love the energy in saying that out loud.
When you know, you know. Somewhere along the way, we have learnt not to trust our feelings and let them guide our actions.
We ask for evidence, before we believe. We want to know for sure, before we commit. We want to analyze every outcome, before we take the risk.
If there is one important message in the law of attraction philosophy, is that you have to believe, for it to show up. Its about conscious creation and that includes following what feels good. And that means doing something without evidence that is can exist, does exist, will exist.
You know it does, because it feels right.
The greatest gift you can give yourself today, is to re-learn this technique. Try to remember when you chose your actions based on how you felt about it. You already know how to do it, you just might be out of practice.
Start here: Take a blank sheet of paper and pen down the answers to these questions:
Can you ever remember a time when you did something because you knew it was the right thing to do? How did that turn out? How did that experience make you feel?
If you'd like, please share your story.
Recently, I read somewhere, its in our nature to stay ignorant about things that don't personally benefit us. And even if we do know of them, we refuse to recognize its existence and relevance.
Read that again, its a very powerful statement and it made me think about people's behavior as it relates to my decisions in life.
When you do or say something; opinions and suggestions come your way. Even if you didn't ask for them. There is constant feed from people on the validity of your actions.
If you aren't careful, its easy for you to identify with those statements as truths that relate to YOU.
This is where the opening statement becomes important.
When we give opinions to others, we look at information in relation to how it will benefit us. And if it doesn't, the tendency maybe to be indifferent, unsupportive, defensive or judgmental.
Anyway you look at it, neither of the reactions are in relation to you, your skills, your worth or your capabilities.
Read this again and reflect.
A lot of my coaching and writing deals with understanding perspectives and paradigms. When we get down to goals and desires, one of the more complex thing to figure out, is whose paradigm is being used to dictate those goals. The second thing we identify is which of the 'external' voices are we listening to and which ones are we eventually internalizing.
This kind of work takes tremendous courage and I have had people tip toe around this topic when it gets difficult.
How you use your potential, is affected by what you think you are worth.
Surround yourself with people who truly support you and learn which 'external' voices to internalize.
Comment with your story, if you'd like to share.
The Two Positive Attitude myths
Positive Attitude, the thing that everyone says we need to have to be happy and successful.
Positive - Good, Affirmative, Constructive
Attitude - certain way of thinking or feeling
So a positive attitude would mean 'a good, affirmative, constructive way of thinking or feeling'?
The problem with the way people understand this is that they put the emphasis on the 'thinking' part.
"You need to thinking about the good in this situation. Think about words that are positive and describe your situation by using positive words."
I call bulls%#t!
Myth 1: If you think positive and say positive words, you will be happy and attract the good things.
It's not a thinking process, its a feeling process! And that's where most people go wrong and struggle with the techniques and eventually become critics. A while ago I saw a blog or article that talked about how being positive and having a positive attitude really doesn't work.
I can imagine why many are turned off or distance themselves from it. It can get very frustrating when you continue to say good things, positive words, which would be considered the 'right things to say' and get no results.
The statement to debunk myth 1: Your feelings dictate your thoughts.
What does that mean for us in everyday practice?
Well, simply put, how you feel about it will dictate the energy you continue to carry around. So no matter how many positive words you say out loud, it means little against the energy created by your feelings.
Yes, you can use the 'fake till you make it' technique and I do believe that if you stick with it long enough, it will make a difference.
But that's the hard way around the problem. And chances are that the same situation will crop up because you haven't dealt with how you feel about it. You haven't processed and re-engineered your brain patterns to take you to the next level.
Work on the feelings!
Myth 2: Being positive means to always be in a state of contentment, joy and super charged.
Emotions and feelings are a big part being and staying positive. We grow up with other people's projections and paradigms, which also means that we learn how to process emotions from them.
It takes continuous work to build up the behavior to keep your feelings in check. Most of us have to re-work and unlearn years of behavior patterns.
The statement to debunk myth 2: There is a range of emotions and all are valid. To get to the good feeling, we must understand, accept and own each of these emotions.
I like to refer to the Abraham -Hicks Emotional Guidance scale as detailed in the book Ask and It's Given. It remains my go-to for coaching.
Sometimes what we need to do to feel positive may not conform to the popular version. So, if you must take time to express anger to get away from fear, take the time to do that. And that will be the most 'positive attitude' you are able to express; for now. And that's OK!
But the aim should be to move upward on the Guidance Scale.
It's a journey and a crucial one at that. Being positive can mean different things to different people, depending which emotion one may be experiencing.
Own and accept every emotion!
So in conclusion, while practicing positive attitude, keep two things in mind: