The last few days I have had to make a choice and it’s not an easy one, to say the least. To be honest, when you are this close to the situation, there is so much mind chatter in so little time, that it becomes increasing difficult to know which one is your true voice.
So as I work my way to making my choice, I thought I’d share with you the 7 things you should keep in mind while making a decision.
These are my top tips when making a tough decision (or any choice for that matter!)
1) Get Coached:Many folks oversee this crucial element at a time when we could use an unbiased perspective. Find a Coach that you trust and whose values you admire. A coach can provide an environment where you can discuss openly your true feelings, without judgement. You don’t have to prove anything and your coach will be your biggest champion.
2) Keep others out of the equation:‘What will they say?’, ‘How will they feel?’, ‘What will they think of me?’. This is a trap you don’t want to fall into. Keep others opinions out for the time being. People can get stuck doing things they don’t want to because that is what everyone expects them to do. Not us!
3) Align your decisions with your Core values:Your decisions cannot be outside of your core values. It won’t work for long. Whatever you choose they have to stay aligned with your personal values. If you don’t know your core values, it’s worth doing an exercise and figuring out what yours are.
4) Commit to your happiness:Make a promise to yourself that you will always stay in situations that make your happy. And keep that promise and see yourself flourish in the decisions you make.
5) Be Flexible, things change:Everything we know is energy and energy needs to be in motion. Your decisions are not your life; they are what give you life experiences. If you aren’t happy with your decisions, Change it.
6) Don’t be too hard on yourself:When you do change your mind, it doesn’t make you a failure. We all try and plan the road we intend to take but sometimes there are new layouts, twists and turns. Give yourself a break, will you?
7) Choose the 2nd best option:Courage comes in all forms. We hope we could see everything in black and white but sometimes we aren’t ready to see. And sometimes the bravest thing you can do is to choose the second best option. And that’s OK!
Thank heavens for my mentor coach, Lisa Hayes. Sorting my mind chatter without her would be unnecessarily stressful! I continue to ask for guidance and looking for any signs to move forward. Like me, I hope you use these tips to make decisions easy!