We’ve all heard some version of this quote; the only one stopping you is you.
And it is so true. The second ‘you’ referenced in the quote is your EGO. Ego is what separates the subconscious (the source) and the reality we experience. It’s an artificial intelligence that gives you a sense of identity and reality.
The Ego can only survive by perpetuating a false sense of separation; your separation from the source and your separation from others. To achieve this separation, tools like anger, jealousy, resentment, pride, pity, blame and dislike (to name a few) are always its disposal.
The game is very simple, the Ego constantly deploys one of its favorite tools, you then react to the stimulus, and as a result, the Ego becomes more distinct and powerful.
We are moving cities and so this past week I have been traveling and have been looking for a new home. On the one hand, I manifested the perfect set up to start anew but on the other, I was drowning in guilt. I was feeling guilty that I had not worked a single day to further my work. It was really bringing me down.
In true 'coach' fashion, I used my go-to tool to figure this out.
Through the use of the process I came to realize that it wasn't that I was feeling guilty that I didn’t work; it was that I was upset that others were doing fabulous things while I had nothing new to put out. And I felt that somehow as a result of not working, I was losing an imaginary race and others were getting ahead.
It took me all of one second to know that this was my Ego causing a disconnect. And it was in full swing, critiquing me to a pulp and to a point where it didn’t feel good to be me.
That’s where I S-H-U-T that sh*t down!
And in true 'Ruby' fashion, said out loud as if I was talking directly to it;
‘I see you, I see what you are trying to do and NO, I am not going to play. This is NOT my game. It is not in line with my commitment to Ease, Love, and Well-Being. I understand you exist but NOT at my expense, NOT by moving me away from the source. It’s time for you to sit down, my friend.’
I still have more scripting to do around this and maybe employ music to help raise my energy to joy. But just saying that out loud made such a difference for me.
For the record, it is one of most uncomfortable things to go through. You know, when you start to be honest and call yourself out like this. But I do this because I know nothing fruitful is going to come out of staying in a dark place like this.
There are many more connections and behavior patterns that I have uncovered and I also have something to say about the Power of Vulnerability, but that’s writing for another time.
At some point all of us have to deal with our ego and it is not a onetime affair. It’s a constant practice and one that's worth all the work.
Because that's when you start to become The Unstoppable Force.
Until next time here's to Ease, Love, and Well-Being.