In a recent guest podcast, a colleague and I discussed the Role of Women At Home. Women’s empowerment is a topic I am very passionate about because growing up I didn’t think I had any and that belief continued till my mid 20's. I didn’t think my thoughts mattered and that I had anything of value to contribute. Like most girls I grew up with, we had a role to play and there were specific lanes and expected behaviors laid out for us.
This messaging was given to me at home, school and the society at large (I saw it in the movies, soaps, and advertising). So when I was asked to guest speak on this very important topic, I knew I HAD to address the role of women at home and the influence they actually had in molding the society, even if they didn't think it.
The home is the most personal of spaces for everyone, especially for women who can completely be themselves and don’t have to continue playing out specific behaviors. At least that’s what a home should be, space where you can shine in all your glory without prejudice. Isn't it?
Growing up I was taken care of entirely by women; from my mother and stay at home grandmother, to the ‘all girls’ boarding school, that had all female staff and helpers and was a convent run by nuns. But the most impressionable lessons were the ones reinforced at home. I have had very strong women that influenced me and set my behaviors. So you’d think I’d have it all figured out. Well... kind of.
I did, however, make observations then that serve me now to know my preferences...
In my experience, what was allowed, what was accepted or what was expected came down to how malleable the women were in each position.
Today I recognize this as the biggest lesson in empowerment and I think I was 14 when I first began to really notice this. (It would be another decade before I took steps to further this understanding and make something of it.)
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any. – Alice Walker, American author, poet and activist.
That’s really my only point with the podcast or with this post.
There are whole generations of women that have to re-learn the power and influence they have in creating reality. And that starts with what we allow, accept and expect at home, our very intimate and person space.
As a daughter, sibling, wife, mother, aunt, niece, grandmother...
We all want the world to accept and empower women and want all violence of any kind towards women to stop. Even as the work continues in the world outside, every woman needs to start that change at home.
First off, our practice at home realigns our thoughts and we draw into our reality the experiences we want to have. The world literally shows up based on the thoughts and feelings we have inside. We can learn the techniques to create and re-shape. And having that feminine energy gives us a uniquely stronger wiring for spiritual connection to tap into.
Secondly, our practice begins to set behaviors and expectations of the people that live with us. They see and learn these behaviors and when they go out into the world, they replicate what they’ve learned at home (just as I did growing up).
My hope with the podcast and this article is for women to realize that we create our realities with our thoughts. That we are energy based consciousness and that we have the power to choose and allow whatever experiences we’d like. We are more powerful than we currently realize but that it can be changed by looking for people and tools that support such a change.
You can listen to the complete podcast here.
Feeling Big Love for all of you!